As long as I can remember, all that I have wanted to do is be a mom. Even though I am not a mother yet, I am starting to realize what it means to be a mom. I have learned that it takes a great deal of sacrifice not just of your time, but of yourself, your energy, pretty much everything that you can imagine. I have a pretty awesome example of what it means to be a mom. My mom had it rough. From what I can imagine, it is not easy raising five young kids by yourself. I am sure that things become even more difficult when you throw in terminal illnesses, learning disabilities, and behavioral problems. My mother sacrificed her time spent at home so that the five of us kids could have what we needed.
This way of life and upbringing is not ideal. It is probably the reason why each of us is the way that we are. We all lack some social skills, but we know how to make Ramen Noodles taste amazing. We may not have strong bonds outside of our family, but we know, without fail, who we can call upon in times of trouble and desperate need. The bonds that we formed during these hard times, will stay with us forever. Each family has their own dynamic and culture. Mine was not the ideal, but I learned so much from it. I learned who I can rely on, who I want to be, and what kind of future that I am willing to work for and what I am passionate about.
Regardless of the circumstances you grow up in or are currently living in, you are the only one that can determine your happiness. Only you can choose how you are going to act in this life. There are both good and bad sides to every situation. It all depends on how you look at it and what you are open to learning from it.
Monday, January 30, 2017
Saturday, January 21, 2017
I have always found it interesting how different families interact with one another. Each family has a set of unspoken rules that they always follow. Whether they are unofficially assigned seats at the dinner table or in the car or how each member is to act and follow on family public outings. My family had its own set of rules just as yours did. In my family, we knew that you kept up with our oldest sister in the grocery store or you got left behind. We knew that it was never okay to fight over who was left in charge when mom went out for few hours because it was always either myself or our oldest sister. We learned that if you wanted something in life, you had to work for it.
An even more interesting thing to observe is when these unspoken rules are disrupted. Things can tend to fly out of control.There were several moments in our family life that disrupted what we knew and caused us to change and to reevaluate what our unspoken rules were. It was during these moments that we grew as a family system and sibling subsystems became stronger and closer. Change is not a bad thing, Scary, uncomfortable, and strange, but never bad. Change allows us to learn and to grow, to develop talents and discover new parts of who we are. It is how we choose to respond that determines what we learn. I am not a product of what happens to or around me but rather how I act and respond to these events that determine the kind of person I am going to come out on the other side as.
An even more interesting thing to observe is when these unspoken rules are disrupted. Things can tend to fly out of control.There were several moments in our family life that disrupted what we knew and caused us to change and to reevaluate what our unspoken rules were. It was during these moments that we grew as a family system and sibling subsystems became stronger and closer. Change is not a bad thing, Scary, uncomfortable, and strange, but never bad. Change allows us to learn and to grow, to develop talents and discover new parts of who we are. It is how we choose to respond that determines what we learn. I am not a product of what happens to or around me but rather how I act and respond to these events that determine the kind of person I am going to come out on the other side as.
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http://relationsfamily.weebly.comSaturday, January 14, 2017
What is a Family?
There are many different ways to define "family", this is the dictionary definition
fam·i·ly
ˈfam(ə)lē/
noun
- 1.a group consisting of parents and children living together in a household.
- 2.all the descendants of a common ancestor.
I define family differently. Family is not always those who you share a bloodline with or those who you shared a living space with. Family is those who you trust, love and respect. Family is those who stick by you and support your life choices and difficulties. Your family is who you want by your side when you are making big decisions and those who want to share the small joys with. I have members in my family that I do not share a bloodline with and there are people that I do share a bloodline with that I do not consider family. Those that I do not share a bloodline with are a part of my family because they have seen me at my worst times and have supported me and loved me as I worked to overcome life's challenges. I truly believe that family is who you live with, laugh with and love. There are going to be moments in life where you feel completely alone. It is those people who stand by you as you tackle the challenges in life who are your family.
Sunday, January 8, 2017
Family is My Future
There are many things that occur in life that can either make or break your future. Most of the events that occur are brought to pass because of the choices that you make everyday, My name is Nicole and I choose to determine what kind of future I have. I want a family of my own to be the main event of my future. As you could guess, I am an advocate for the family.
In the world that we live in today, there are so many different dynamics and types of families. I am not going to tell you which one is right or wrong. What I am going to tell you is that finding and understanding which dynamic works for you is what is important. This is my family. We are not an example of the traditional family. Our family includes a step- parent and half-siblings. We are goofy, crazy and sometimes a little strange, but we love each other. This little blended family works, and that is what matters.
In the world that we live in today, there are so many different dynamics and types of families. I am not going to tell you which one is right or wrong. What I am going to tell you is that finding and understanding which dynamic works for you is what is important. This is my family. We are not an example of the traditional family. Our family includes a step- parent and half-siblings. We are goofy, crazy and sometimes a little strange, but we love each other. This little blended family works, and that is what matters.
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